How to deal with anger through anger management counseling
Anger. One of most volatile emotions one feels. To some, when it happens, they are not taken over by the emotion. It is maybe a slight irritation. It is something they are in control of.
For other people, it can cause rage and an intense fury. When that occurs it will turn destructive and quickly get out of control. This leads to problems at work, in personal relationships, and in general their overall life.
A person who allows himself to get out of control is really controlled by this emotion and its unpredictableness.
With my experience in anger management counseling I would like to explore a couple of ways to control this emotion. The goal of is to reduce the emotional feelings the physical arousal that anger causes.
First thing you need to do is relax. A relaxation tools you can use is deep breathing. You can uses calming images as well. Another technique you can use is to repeat some calming words.
Don't just use these methods for when you are angry. Try to make it a practice everyday if you feel you have an anger issue.
Second is to change the way you think. Simply put, the anger may cause you to talk loudly, swear, and cause you to express yourself colorfully. These really are just your inner thoughts expressed. What you must do is change the irrational angry thoughts into rational ones.
Instead of allowing yourself to feel you have been wronged, try to tell yourself that this is not the end of the world.
Third, you have to communicate more effectively. When a person gets angry or in a heated discussion, that is when communication breaks down.Rather than having a thoughtful comment, their emotions control what they say.
Slow down so you can think about how you are going to communicate your thoughts.
Finally, try to change the environment you are in. Most of times when we are angry, just going to another room can change our moods completely~When we find ourselves angry or frustrated, often times, just stopping and going to another place can change our moods.
Changing your environment might just be enough to make your emotions calm and control your anger.
Although not the end all, these tips will help you get a control on anger. If you find it does not, you will want to go get some professional help.