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lucianomikeycosta 
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Parenting After a Divorce 
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9/1/2009 

What are the particular divorce parenting practices for infants and toddlers? While divorce might impact everyone in your family, it hits hardest with your infants and toddlers. You need to approach this from a different view than what you use for your older children. Nevertheless, before we get into discussing the critical point, let me ask you a couple of questions. Is it important for parents to know the best appropriate divorce parenting practices? What benefits kids or/and parents can get if there is, by using the best appropriate divorce parenting patterns?

I will leave those doubts hanging into your mind but please make your answers as vivid as possible such that you will no longer mind time and read the rest of this article. Let's go back to business. First, you need to realize how infants react to divorce. Knowing how infants react to divorce will bring you to a better position of knowing the best appropriate divorce parenting practices you can do for your minor. So, how is infant affected by divorce? Infants do not understand divorce, but they can pick up on changes in their parent's feelings and behavior.

When a parent acts concerned or terrible around an infant, the infant is likely to feel worried or sad. Infants cannot tell adults how they feel. Yes, they can pick up their parent's feelings, only they still cannot tell us how they feel. As a result, infants may act more fussy and difficult to comfort, or seem uninterested in people or things when their parents are troubled relative to divorce. Infants of age 6 to 8 months develop stranger anxiety. They may act fearful or anxious for unknown people. After divorce, an infant may see one parent less often than before, so the infant may show stranger anxiety around that parent. Infants of age 8 to 12 months may begin to show separation distress. Infants may cry, scream or cling when a parent is leaving. It is tough for an infant to be separated from a parent, especially for a long period of time, such as overnight.

When parents divorce, infants may experience more separations and feel less secure. You may observe an growth in your infant's separation distress during the divorce process. Now that you know how infants react towards divorce, I'm sure a lot of ideas come to your mind on what divorce parenting practices are best appropriate for a infant. To add up to your list of ideas, here below are some of the matters you should make to help your infant adjust to divorcing. · Establishing solid and predictable routines. Having consistency is important for young children, because it helps them to feel secure. At times, some parenting issues require communication and coordination between parents, if the baby spends time with both parents.

 Both parents don't have to do things exactly the same way, only it is easier for children if most things are similar in each home.

· Separate your feelings about the other parent from your parenting role. This may be difficult but doing so will help your infant not to pick up distress feelings.

· Interacting with the child in a location where the child feels good and comfortable.

· Keep children's favorite toys, blankets or stuffed animals close at hand.

· Reassure infants of your continued presence with personal affection and loving words. Infants and toddlers need to know that their parents still love them, and that they will be taken care of.

· You need to be an active part in your child's life. Infants are likely to feel most comfortable to both parents if they have frequent contact with both parents following divorce.

· Be caring and increase your baby's awareness. Understand their thoughts and feelings, and help them express those thoughts and feelings, makes a world of difference.

· Communicate with other caregivers. Talk with other important adults and caregivers about how to support your baby during this transition time. Be sure to keep them updated about family changes. They need to know what is going on in order to understand the child's behavior.

With the preceding information, I hope you will become an empowered divorced parent and believe that you can raise healthy, happy and successful children, even if you're divorce.

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