How often do the adoptive parents who “poured their lives into their children,” as the mother writes, find themselves in a situation when, in the moment of high emotions or simply “right out of the blue,” their children turn against them, distance themselves, accuse them of perceived wrongdoing, cruelty, and other impossible things? Not so rarely, unfortunately. In this dialogue with such family in trouble, the authors of the book If I Love My Kid Enough: The Reality of Raising an Adopted Child Sara-Jane Hardman and Jean Roe Mauro talk about how it happens with those who were abandoned young and how long any path to healing is.
Sara-Jane Hardman and Jean Mauro LCSW
Why We Need to Attach
An explanation of the importance of attachment in an individual's life and how to maximize it in a child's development.
Nicholas Rogu M.D.
Reactive Attachment Disorder in the Internationally adopted child
I have heard that many internationally adopted children are at risk for Reactive Attachment Disorder. What is this disorder and what are some of the signs that parents should look for?
Linda Busch, PH.D.
Older Child Adoption: A Psychologist's Story of Love and Attachment
Dr. Linda Busch, clinical psychologist and expert in adoption and attachment, tells the story of how she and her husband came to adopt an 8 year old girl from Russia. Dr. Busch believes that most older adopted children are not attachment disordered, but simply need the same time and attention to attach as children raised with their biological parents. Dr. Busch combines self-reflection with her expertise as a psychologist to tell her beautiful story of older child adoption, and offers help and encouragement to adoptive parents struggling with attachment concerns.
Recognizing attachment concerns in children
This article describes the subtle signs of attachment difficulties. Many of these subtle concerns can be found in young children adopted from overseas. It is important for parents to be sensitive to the subtle effects of institutional care so that they can appropriately help their children. This article includes some parent annecdotes and specific ideas for parents to use.